“At the end of the day, the only opinion about you that matters is your own.”
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The more I get involved in social media, the more terrified I feel. The messages I read from thousands of people denigrating others, simply because they don’t like how they look, gives me goosebumps.
Some people like to minimize others, insult their appearance or their looks.
When I was a child, I was victim of school bullying. Some kids older than me, treated me as if I were human waste, my existence bothered them. Up until now, I don’t know what I did wrong, I can’t understand why I caused so much hate… I felt horrible and guilty. For you to have a slight idea, I was too tall for my age and also too big; I was too quiet and shy. I think those were my “mortal sins”.
There was no internet back then, imagine now that everything is online and you can’t escape for one minute. It is terrifying. I suffer for children and teenagers; also for the adults who went through this, because even if we got over it, the pain never really goes away completely.
But, there is always light at the end of the tunnel
I assure you, that you will reach a point where people’s rejections will not affect you at important levels. Once you reach to that point it means that you finally got it: you are very valuable, and as long as you know that, nothing else matters. It is not easy to get to this point. It requires time and work on ourselves daily; it’s about learning to love yourself and value yourself, without expecting anyone else’s approval.
At the end of the day, the only opinion about you that matters is your own. When the love for yourself is big and genuine, those who do not appreciate you will be replaced by those who do, that is a fact. In other words, you will become more selective choosing the people who will join your circle. You must never feel ugly, because beauty is not measured by a face, body or clothing. Beauty is something that projects from the inside, from the soul.
Unfortunately, society does not help us reach to this point. It is an individual and lonely work. Even if people say how amazing you are, if you don’t believe it from the heart, nothing anyone tells you will make you feel good. I feel I should talk about this, even if it’s an “obvious” statement, because actually, for many of us it’s not. It is very difficult to get out of a low self-esteem state, resulting from constant mistreatment.
But the truth is, you are worth it, your presence in this world is important. Your role in this world is important. Above all, you are here to be happy, to love yourself and live with no fear.
The hell with society standards! There is no manual, no bible, and no legal code that says what beauty is. Do you know why? Because a person’s beauty is projected by the look in their eyes, their personality, their energy and their internal light.
So, when someone tells you that you are too ugly to be in a video, picture, event or whatever, smile and feel sorry for that person, because that person is the one filled with insecurities and does not know how to express them, so he/she takes them all against the world. Never stop being yourself because that is your power.
In conclusion
To get to love ourselves is the result of an internal and personal journey. You must believe in you and appreciate all of what you are, combined; face your insecurities and learn along the way. You will be ok, I assure you.
Xoxo,
MJ
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